Etiquette is a State of Mind

The end of all etiquette is to so cultivate your mind that even when you are quietly seated, not the roughest ruffian can dare make onset on your person. Ogasawara

Empathy

The feeling of distress is the root of benevolence, therefore a benevolent man is ever mindful of those who ae suffering and in distress. Mencius

The Power of Love

Benevolence brings under its sway whatever hinders its power, just as water subdues fire: they only doubt the power of water to quench flames who try to extinguish with a cupful a whole burning wagon-load of fagots. Mencius